First love

By:Rajendran

The firsts are always special. The first time we cry, the first time we walk, the first time we talk. But we don’t remember these firsts. One of the firsts we remember, we cherish, and hold dear is first love. First love gives us a lot of firsts, the first time we realize feelings for someone, the first confession, the first ‘I love you ‘, the first hug, the first kiss. 

“There is no love like the first” – Nicholas sparks

The unfamiliar feeling that settles in the heart, the sense of excitement running through the blood, the overwhelming emotions rushing through the mind, the feeling of cosiness around them, the aroma of love is surely magical.

Why do people ask us about first love but never the next? What is so special about first love? 

It’s the magic, the pureness, the innocence, and the craziness that makes first love exceptional. 

“You remember your first love because they show you, prove to you, that you can love and be loved, that nothing in this world is deserved except for love, that love is both how you become a person and why.”

-John Green

We all can remember the euphoric feeling of love and how our heart ran a marathon when we saw our crush. How we blush whenever we think about them. How we create situations in our heads with them. How we plan to confess thousands of times yet retreat. How we constantly try to become familiar with the new feeling of love. It’s just so fascinating, how we gain an awesome experience once and for all in our lifetime.

It’s just infatuation people say, but the love-filled with just pure innocence comes only once and that’s first love.

“Love, like everything else in life, should be a discovery, an adventure, and like most adventures, you don’t know you’re having one until you’re right in the middle of it.”

-E.A. Bucchianeri

Love gives us the sense of happiness to have a person by our side. The sense of commitment and excitement. The feeling of fondness and attachment. The pure blissful emotion. 

It’s not just the magical feeling that makes us feel like we are floating in the air but it’s also a great teacher. 

We learn how to express our feelings, how to understand what and how others feel, how to respect people’s opinions, how to give the space and time people need particularly people close to us. We start to know the true meaning of unconditional love and selfless love. But more importantly, we learn how to become a better person, we constantly try to be.

First love is extremely different because after the first love we mature, we become more calculative, more aware of what’s happening, and when the cluelessness fades away so does the innocence.  

First love may last or may not but it always remains as something one will adore till the end.

 “The first stab of love is like a sunset, a blaze of colour—oranges, pearly pinks, vibrant purples…” —Anna Godbersen, The Luxe

It’s just a magical breeze that engulfs us once but is always locked deep in the heart beneath layers and only we can see and treasure those memories forever and ever. 

Memories of one’s first love may fade but never disappear.